小时候很喜欢读故事,感觉读故事的时候可以去感受一下别人的生活,稍微跳出现在的生活,轻松的做一个旁观者。在奶奶家,龙泉路的公交车站有一个报刊亭,每个月能够凑够2.5元的时候都会跑去那儿买《故事会》。《故事会》里面有各种各样的故事,现实或者虚拟。每次买完我都会跑回奶奶家,窝在自己房间的阳台上慢慢的阅读。有一个故事我至今都记得。它代表了我的变化,我的生活。

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故事是这么开始的:有一个女孩,她在她们班里一直排名23名,班里总共有50个人。一直都是中等生。她的父母也很着急,不停地想办法提高她的成绩。但是她的成绩一直都停在23名。她的父母很着急但也没办法。虽然这个女孩成绩不好,但是做人却很好。班里的人都选她做班长。有一天,那个女孩和她妈妈在一个房间里,织着围巾。

你可以对世界上任何一个人撒谎,唯独不能跟自己撒谎。只有我们不断接受挑战,生活才能前进,然第一个也是最难的挑战就是诚实地面对自己。

1。 Stop spending time with the wrong people。

“你快要成为英雄了。”她妈妈开着玩笑的说。

人的一生,总会有许多十字路口,向左,还是向右,迷茫的我们无从判断。这30件不值得我们去做的事,让自己在人生选择时知道该选择什么,放弃什么,不再迷茫。

不要花时间和错误的人相处。

“老师说过,当英雄路过的时候,总要有人坐在路边鼓掌。”她边织边说。

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people.不要花时间和错误的人相处。

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out
of you。 If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for
you。 You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot。 Never, ever insist
yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth。 And
remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at
your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst
that are your true friends。

她停顿了一下:“妈妈,我不想成为英雄,我想成为坐在路边鼓掌的人。”

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out
of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. 
You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to
someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not
the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the
ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true
friends.

人生苦短,没有必要和那些令你不快乐的人纠缠。如果那个人需要你,你不需要刻意去做什么,他/她自然会留出你的位置。绝对不要和那些低看了你价值的人在一起。记住,一帆风顺时守在自己身边并不珍贵,当你深陷困境却依然和你并肩在一起的才是真正的朋友。

一直记得看完这个故事之后,感触很大很大。我小时候一直很内向,很不适应其他人聚集在自己身上的眼光。做事都是以低调为主。感觉生活就是要平平淡淡,当一个普通人才是最真实的。住在一个小公寓里,和自己的家庭一起过日子。每天早上按时起床上班,每天按时下班回家做饭。晚上和家人一起看电视。晚上一起和爱人入睡。多么普通的生活,多么平静的生活,多么让人向往的生活。很多次我都和爸爸妈妈说:我的目标就是成为像那个女孩一样,成为一个普通人。

人生苦短,没有必要和那些令你不快乐的人纠缠。如果那个人需要你,你不需要刻意去做什么,他/她自然会留出你的位置。绝对不要和那些低看了你价值的人在一起。记住,一帆风顺时守在自己身边并不珍贵,当你深陷困境却依然和你并肩在一起的才是真正的朋友。

2。 Stop running from your problems。

就这样抱着对未来普通的生活的憧憬过了小学,步入初中。

  1. Stop running from your problems.不要逃避问题。

不要逃避问题。

然后,我出国了。

Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the
world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We
aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how
we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and
fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems,
learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what
ultimately molds us into the person we become.

Face them head on。 No, it won’t be easy。 There is no person in the
world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them。 We
aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems。 That’s not how
we’re made。 In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble
and fall。 Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face
problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time。 This
is what ultimately molds us into the person we become。

走进学校的第一天,就可以感觉到,气氛,完全不一样了。感觉就像从90年代初的黑白片步入新世纪五彩缤纷的好莱坞大片,眼前的世界都被涂上了一层色彩。人人走路的时候都充满了自信与活力,仿佛自我的梦想就在眼前一样触手可及。

直面并解决问题。没错,这很不容易。世上没有人能够轻松的渡过每一个难关。
也没有人就能不停地轻松地战胜困难。事实上,我们本就该迷茫,伤心,难过,出差错,因为那是生活的意义所在——去面对问题,去学习,去适应,随着时间的发展学会解决问题,塑造了我们成为什么样的人。

直面并解决问题。没错,这很不容易。世上没有人能够轻松的渡过每一个难关。
也没有人就能不停地轻松地战胜困难。事实上,我们本就该迷茫,伤心,难过,出差错,因为那是生活的意义所在——去面对问题,去学习,去适应,随着时间的发展学会解决问题,塑造了我们成为什么样的人。

篮球一直是我热爱的运动,我从小学三年级一直打到现在从来没有放弃过。当学校开始选拔篮球队的时候,我参加了竞选。结果是被选上了。刚得到消息的我很激动,感觉被选上了就是达到目的,已经没有什么担忧的了。可是等训练第一天开始的时候,我就意识到了差距。在队里人,人人都和我一样热爱篮球。但是他们付出的却远远比我多,每天自己刻苦的训练,模拟比赛,研究录像。而我,从来没有想过超越“普通”这个级别。

  1. Stop lying to yourself.不要欺骗自己。

3。 Stop lying to yourself。

在这里,“普通”这个词并不是中性词,而是贬义词。夸大一点的说吧,没有比被别人评论你只是个普通人更挫败的感觉了。为什么要做一个普通人,当你具备所有能够超越“普通”的条件?为什么要做一个碌碌无为的人,当你可以改变世界?美国就是这种让你疑问自己的国家。普通人就只能一辈子为别人工作,为别人改变世界的目的而劳动。

You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. 
Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most
difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

不要欺骗自己。

当我走在纽约的街道,看着周围的行人繁忙的脚步。我想到,我以后会像这些人一样为了生活而到处奔波吗?我会因为生活而忘记自己的梦想吗?苹果创始人乔布斯生前说过这样一句话:When
you grow up you, tend to get told that the world is the way it is and
your life is just to live your life inside the world, try not to bash
into the walls too much, try to have a nice family, have fun, save a
little money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader, once
you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you
that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you.
And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own
things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be
the same again.“
这句话的意思就是:你成长的时候,很多人都会告诉你,这个世界就摆在这里,你的任务就是去活在这个世界里。尽量避免困难,避免受苦,成立一个好的家庭,享享乐,存存钱养老。这样的生活是很受限制的。生活可以更加的旷阔,只要当你发现到一点,你周围所有被称为”生活“的东西都是被和你差不多聪明的人创造出来的,而且你可以去改变它,影响它,创造可以为他人而使用的东西。当你认识到这一点的时候,你的世界观就会被彻底的改变。

你可以对世界上任何一个人撒谎,唯独不能跟自己撒谎。只有我们不断接受挑战,生活才能前进,然第一个也是最难的挑战就是诚实地面对自己。

You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to
yourself。 Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first
and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves。

相对与只是单纯的活在这个世上,我们应该面对这个世界,改变这个世界,然后留下自己的印记。我们经历的都太多,也改变了不少,为什么要把自己的能力限制在”普通“这个级别呢。一定要相信自己的能力,改变世界的能力。现在再回首来看《故事会》里那个女孩的故事,感触大不一样。坐在路边鼓掌的人就让那些普通人去做吧。我的目标只有一个,那就是成为那昂首挺胸,自豪的走在路上的英雄。我们都可以做到。

  1. Stop putting your own needs on the back
    burner.不要把自己的需求排在最后。

你可以对世界上任何一个人撒谎,唯独不能跟自己撒谎。只有我们不断接受挑战,生活才能前进,然第一个也是最难的挑战就是诚实的面对自己。

After all, you must believe in one thing: We are not born to be average.

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving
someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help
others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow
your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

4。 Stop putting your own needs on the back burner。

世界上最悲惨的事情是,太爱某一个人而丢失了自己,忘记了自己也是不一样的存在。是的,要帮助别人,但是更要爱护自己。如果你从没有跟从自己的内心,从没有为自己做些重要的事情,那现在就开始。

不要把自己的需求排在最后。

  1. Stop trying to be someone you’re not.不要强迫自己成为理想的别人。

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving
someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too。 Yes, help
others; but help yourself too。 If there was ever a moment to follow
your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now。

One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world
that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be
prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be
younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like
you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

世界上最悲惨的事情是,太爱某一个人而丢失了自己,忘记了自己也是不一样的存在。是的,要帮助别人,但是更要爱护自己。如果你从没有跟从自己的内心,从没有为自己做些重要的事情,那现在就开始。

世上最大的挑战就是将自己改变成为另一个人。总有人更加漂亮,总有人更聪明,总有人更年轻,但他们都不是你。不要为了让别人更喜欢自己而去强迫自己改变。做自己,对的人会爱真正的你。

5。 Stop trying to be someone you’re not。

  1. Stop trying to hold onto the past.不要总是攥着过去。

不要强迫自己成为理想的别人。

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading
your last one.

One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world
that’s trying to make you like everyone else。 Someone will always be
prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be
younger, but they will never be you。 Don’t change so people will like
you。 Be yourself and the right people will love the real you。

如果你一直重读昨天,那很难翻开人生新的篇章。

世上最大的挑战就是将自己改变成为另一个人。总有人更加漂亮,总有人更聪明,总有人更年轻,但他们都不是你。不要为了让别人更喜欢自己而去强迫自己改变。做自己,对的人会爱真正的你。

  1. Stop being scared to make a mistake.不要害怕犯错。

6。 Stop trying to hold onto the past。

Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more
productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures
behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up
regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

不要总是攥着过去。

不断尝试,哪怕是错了,也比什么都不做好十几倍。每份成功背后都有无数的失败,每一次失败都是通往成功的尝试。你会为没有做过的事情后悔而不是去尝试了的。

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading
your last one。

  1. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.不要为过去的错误而折磨自己。

如果你一直重读昨天,那很难翻开人生新的篇章。

We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no
matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find
the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have
struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your
mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the
power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has
ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to
come.

7。 Stop being scared to make a mistake。

我们也许会错爱过某个人,为某件错事而哭泣,但是不论多大的错事,可以确定的是,错误的人或事会帮我们找到适合自己的人或事。我们都会犯错,都会挣扎,甚至后悔过去做的事情。但是如今,你不是曾经犯错误的你,更不是曾经不停挣扎着的你,你是全新的自己,那个有能力塑造新的现在和未来的你。曾经发生的每一件事都是在为将要到来的时刻做准备。

不要害怕犯错。

  1. Stop trying to buy happiness.不要试图“购买”幸福。

Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more
productive than doing nothing。 Every success has a trail of failures
behind it, and every failure is leading towards success。 You end up
regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did。

Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the
things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and
working on our passions.

不断尝试,哪怕是错了,也比什么都不做好十几倍。每份成功背后都有无数的失败,每一次失败都是通往成功的尝试。你会为没有做过的事情后悔而不是去尝试了的。

我们想要的很多东西都非常昂贵。但事实是,真正适合我们的事情往往都是免费的–真爱,微笑,激情的工作。

8。 Stop berating yourself for old mistakes。

  1. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.

不要为过去的错误而折磨自己。

不要幻想通过其他人来获得幸福。

We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no
matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us
find the person and things that are right for us。 We all make
mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past。 But you
are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here
NOW with the power to shape your day and your future。 Every single
thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment
that is yet to come。

If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy
in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create
stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone
else.

我们也许会错爱过某个人,为某件错事而哭泣,但是不论多大的错事,可以确定的是,错误的人或事会帮我们找到适合自己的人或事。我们都会犯错,都会挣扎,甚至后悔过去做的事情。但是如今,你不是曾经犯错误的你,更不是曾经不停挣扎着的你,你是全新的自己,那个有能力塑造新的现在和未来的你。曾经发生的每一件事都是在为将要到来的时刻做准备。

如果你对内在的自己不满意,那你很难在一段和别人的长期关系中获得幸福。你要先建立自己的幸福才能和别人分享这份幸福。

9。 Stop trying to buy happiness。

  1. Stop being idle.不要闲着。

不要试图“购买”幸福。

Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there
in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You
cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves
risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

Many of the things we desire are expensive。 But the truth is, the
things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and
working on our passions。

别想太多,不然你会制造出很多不必要的麻烦。评估一下情况然后就做决定。你无法改变你不能面对的事。前进总是意味着承担风险。不迈出第一步,你就无法走出第二步,生活就是这样的。

我们想要的很多东西都非常昂贵。但事实是,真正适合我们的事情往往都是免费的–真爱,微笑,激情的工作。

  1. Stop thinking you’re not ready.不要总是想自己还未做好准备。

10。 Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness。

Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most
great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones,
which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

不要幻想通过其他人来获得幸福。

当机会来了,没有人会觉的自己做好了100%的准备。因为生活中的重大机会总是会迫使我们走出自己的舒适区,这就意味着刚开始的时候我们肯定会感觉不舒服。

If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy
in a long-term relationship with anyone else either。 You have to create
stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone
else。

  1. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong
    reasons.不要因为某个错误的原因开始一段感情。

如果你对内在的自己不满意,那你很难在一段和别人的长期关系中获得幸福。你要先建立自己的幸福才能和别人分享这份幸福。

Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be
in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be,
it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the
best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

11。 Stop being idle。

必须要明智的选择感情。有个错误的伴侣还不如单身呢。没有必要着急。如果缘分到了,一切都会到来的——在合适的时间跟合适的人。投入一段爱情是因为时机到了而不是感到孤单。

不要闲着。

  1. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t
    work.不要因为之前恋情的失败而拒绝新的感情。

Don‘t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there
in the first place。 Evaluate situations and take decisive action。 You
cannot change what you refuse to confront。 Making progress involves
risk。 Period! You can‘t make it to second base with your foot on
first。

In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.
Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most
importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

别想太多,不然你会制造出很多不必要的麻烦。评估一下情况然后就做决定。你无法改变你不能面对的事。前进总是意味着承担风险。不迈出第一步,你就无法走出第二步,生活就是这样的。

在生命的长河中你会慢慢意识到,遇到所有的人都是命中注定的。有人会考验你,有人会利用你,有人引导你。但是最重要的是,这些会引领你找到真爱。

12。 Stop thinking you‘re not ready。

  1. Stop trying to compete against everyone else.

不要总是想自己还未做好准备。

不要总是和别人竞争。

Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises。 Because most
great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones,
which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first。

Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on
beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between You and
Yourself
only.不要担心其他人做的比你好。每天要专心于超越自己,成功只是一场自己跟自己的战役。

当机会来了,没有人会觉的自己做好了100%的准备。因为生活中的重大机会总是会迫使我们走出自己的舒适区,这就意味着刚开始的时候我们肯定会感觉不舒服。

  1. Stop being jealous of others.不要嫉妒他人。

13。 Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons。

Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your
own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

不要因为某个错误的原因开始一段感情。

嫉妒其实就是在细数别人的幸福却忽视了自己的幸福。要常问问自己:“我拥有哪些别人羡慕不已的东西呢?”

Relationships must be chosen wisely。 It‘s better to be alone than to be
in bad company。 There’s no need to rush。 If something is meant to be,
it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the
best reason。 Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you‘re lonely。

  1. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.停止抱怨和内疚。

必须要明智的选择感情。有个错误的伴侣还不如单身呢。没有必要着急。如果缘分到了,一切都会到来的——在合适的时间跟合适的人。投入一段爱情是因为时机到了而不是感到孤单。

Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a
direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand
everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back
on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often
see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of
mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a
lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

14。 Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t
work。

生命中的挫折都是有其存在的意义,它让你重新步入人生的正轨。或许你还无法理解这些事情发生的原因,或许它们对你来说是痛苦难熬的。但是,当你回头审视这些挫折时,你会发现它们最后会让你变得更出色。所以,你要笑着面对人生中的困境。你要让别人都看到今天的你要比昨天的你更强,而且明天的你会变得更强。

不要因为之前恋情的失败而拒绝新的感情。

18.Stop holding grudges.放开心中的恨。

In life you‘ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet。
Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you。 But
most importantly, some will bring out the best in you。

Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting
yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying,
“What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what
you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer…
let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not
just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself,
move on and try to do better next time.

在生命的长河中你会慢慢意识到,遇到所有的人都是命中注定的。有人会考验你,有人会利用你,有人引导你。但是最重要的是,这些会引领你找到真爱。

如果人心中有恨,最终给自己带来的伤害要远远多出别人所带给自己的伤害。原谅不是说“我不介意你曾经伤害过我”,而是要说,“我不会让你的所作所为毁掉我今后的幸福生活。”宽恕是问题的答案——放手过去、找到内心的平静、最后解放自己!而且,你要记住宽恕并不只是对别人,同时也是对你自己的。如有必要,宽恕自己,然后继续人生的脚步并在下一回做得更好。

15。 Stop trying to compete against everyone else。

  1. Stop letting others bring you down to their
    level.不要让别人拉低了自己的水准。

不要总是和别人竞争。

Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise
theirs.

Don‘t worry about what others are doing better than you。 Concentrate on
beating your own records every day。 Success is a battle between You and
Yourself only。

不要为了迎合那些不愿激励别人的人而降低自己对目标的期望。

不要担心其他人做的比你好。每天要专心于超越自己,成功只是一场自己跟自己的战役。

  1. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to
    others.不要浪费时间一再地向别人解释自己。

16。 Stop being jealous of others。

Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.
Just do what you know in your heart is right.

不要嫉妒他人。

你的朋友不需要你作任何解释也能理解你,而你的敌人永远都不会相信你说的话。所有,你的内心告诉你什么事是正确的,那就去做吧。

Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your
own。 Ask yourself this: “What‘s something I have that everyone
wants?”

  1. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a
    break.不要总是不停地做同一件事,而忘记停下来思考一下。

嫉妒其实就是在细数别人的幸福却忽视了自己的幸福。要常问问自己:“我拥有哪些别人羡慕不已的东西呢?”

The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If
you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re
getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

17。 Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself。

当你觉得自己忙不过来的时候,停下来做一下深呼吸。假如你继续做你一直再做的事,你只会不停地得到你早已得到的东西。有的时候,你需停下来,好让自己看得更清楚。

停止抱怨和内疚。

  1. Stop overlooking the beauty of small
    moments.不要低估了细微时刻的美妙之处。

Life‘s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a
direction that is meant for you。 You may not see or understand
everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough。 But reflect
back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past。 You’ll
often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person,
state of mind, or situation。 So smile! Let everyone know that today
you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be。

Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover
they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the
small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to
you.

生命中的挫折都是有其存在的意义,它让你重新步入人生的正轨。或许你还无法理解这些事情发生的原因,或许它们对你来说是痛苦难熬的。但是,当你回头审视这些挫折时,你会发现它们最后会让你变得更出色。所以,你要笑着面对人生中的困境。你要让别人都看到今天的你要比昨天的你更强,而且明天的你会变得更强。

欣赏那些微不足道的事,因为或许某天当你回望人生时,你会发现它们是无比重要的事。你人生中最美妙的组成部分便是由那些零零碎碎的片段串联而成的,一如你对某人投去的一抹微笑。

18.Stop holding grudges。

  1. Stop trying to make things perfect.不要事事追求完美。

放开心中的恨。

The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get
things done.

Don‘t live your life with hate in your heart。 You will end up hurting
yourself more than the people you hate。 Forgiveness is not saying,
“What you did to me is okay。” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what
you did to me ruin my happiness forever。” Forgiveness is the answer…
let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is
not just for other people, it’s for you too。 If you must, forgive
yourself, move on and try to do better next time。

现实世界不偏爱完美主义者,它只回报那些最终能够完成任务的人。

如果人心中有恨,最终给自己带来的伤害要远远多出别人所带给自己的伤害。原谅不是说“我不介意你曾经伤害过我”,而是要说,“我不会让你的所作所为毁掉我今后的幸福生活。”宽恕是问题的答案——放手过去、找到内心的平静、最后解放自己!而且,你要记住宽恕并不只是对别人,同时也是对你自己的。如有必要,宽恕自己,然后继续人生的脚步并在下一回做得更好。

  1. Stop following the path of least
    resistance.不要总是走阻力最小的人生道路。

19。 Stop letting others bring you down to their level。

Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something
worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.

不要让别人拉低了自己的水准。

人生不易,尤其是当你有一个伟大的梦想时候,你将来会遭遇到的困难会更大、更多。不要去做没有挑战性的事,去做些一鸣惊人的事吧。

Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise
theirs。

  1. Stop acting like everything is fine if it
    isn’t.不要假装一切都很顺利。

不要为了迎合那些不愿激励别人的人而降低自己对目标的期望。

It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to
pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that
everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other
people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed
your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile
again.

20。 Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others。

挫败感或灰心丧气是很正常的一件事。你不必假装自己很坚强,而且你根本就没有必要向别人证明一切都如我所愿。你也不用太在意别人是怎么看待你。想哭就哭吧,流流泪也有益于健康。越快释放压抑的情绪,快乐就会越快降临。

不要浪费时间一再地向别人解释自己。

  1. Stop blaming others for your troubles.不要将自己的麻烦归咎给别人。

Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway。
Just do what you know in your heart is right。

The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to
which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for
what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others
power over that part of your life.

你的朋友不需要你作任何解释也能理解你,而你的敌人永远都不会相信你说的话。所有,你的内心告诉你什么事是正确的,那就去做吧。

你是否能实现自己的梦想在很大程度上就取决于你是否对自己负责。当你把自己所面对困难都归咎于别人时,你也就是在逃避责任——不是别人而是你自己才能改变自己的人生。

21。 Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a
break。

  1. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.不要试图成为一个人的全部。

不要总是不停地做同一件事,而忘记停下来思考一下。

Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making
one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but
their world.  So narrow your focus.

The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it。 If
you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re
getting。 Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things
clearly。

这想法只会让你更筋疲力尽。但是,给你身边的人带去一点快乐确实能改变这个世界,即便无法让整个世界变得更美好,但你确实让那个人的世界变得更美好了。所以,把你的注意力都聚焦在你力所能及的地方。

当你觉得自己忙不过来的时候,停下来做一下深呼吸。假如你继续做你一直再做的事,你只会不停地得到你早已得到的东西。有的时候,你需停下来,好让自己看得更清楚。

  1. Stop worrying so much.不要忧虑重重。

22。 Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments。

Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its
joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask
yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three
years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

不要低估了细微时刻的美妙之处。

忧虑不会带走明天的负担,但它确能带走今天的快乐。而有些事情却是值得你去深思的,判断方法就是问自己:“这件事在1年后、3年后、5年后是否还有重要意义吗?”如果不是的话,你没有什么好忧虑的。

Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover
they were the big things。 The best portion of your life will be the
small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to
you。

29.Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.

欣赏那些微不足道的事,因为或许某天当你回望人生时,你会发现它们是无比重要的事。你人生中最美妙的组成部分便是由那些零零碎碎的片段串联而成的,一如你对某人投去的一抹微笑。

不要把注意力都放在不想要发生的事情上。

23。 Stop trying to make things perfect。

Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the
forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with
the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and
you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

不要事事追求完美。

你应该把注意力放在你想要发生的事情上。积极思考总是出现在每一则成功故事的序幕里。如过你每天醒来时想的是美好的事情就会在今天发生的话,你就会发现事实就是如此。

The real world doesn‘t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get
things done。

  1. Stop being ungrateful.不要忘了感激你所拥有的一切。

现实世界不偏爱完美主义者,它只回报那些最终能够完成任务的人。

No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for
your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. 
Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what
you have that everyone else is missing.

24。 Stop following the path of least resistance。

不论你人生际遇如何,每一天都要心怀感激醒来。在世界某处某些人还在为自己的命运无望地抗争着。所以,不要去想自己错过了什么,想想自己拥有哪些其他人没有的。

不要总是走阻力最小的人生道路。

WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something
worthwhile。 Don’t take the easy way out。 Do something extraordinary。

人生不易,尤其是当你有一个伟大的梦想时候,你将来会遭遇到的困难会更大、更多。不要去做没有挑战性的事,去做些一鸣惊人的事吧。

25。 Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn‘t。

不要假装一切都很顺利。

It‘s okay to fall apart for a little while。 You don’t always have to
pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that
everything is going well。 You shouldn’t be concerned with what other
people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed
your tears。 The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile
again。

挫败感或灰心丧气是很正常的一件事。你不必假装自己很坚强,而且你根本就没有必要向别人证明一切都如我所愿。你也不用太在意别人是怎么看待你。想哭就哭吧,流流泪也有益于健康。越快释放压抑的情绪,快乐就会越快降临。

26。 Stop blaming others for your troubles。

不要将自己的麻烦归咎给别人。

The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to
which you take responsibility for your life。 When you blame others for
what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others
power over that part of your life。

你是否能实现自己的梦想在很大程度上就取决于你是否对自己负责。当你把自己所面对困难都归咎于别人时,你也就是在逃避责任——不是别人而是你自己才能改变自己的人生。

27。 Stop trying to be everything to everyone。

不要试图成为一个人的全部。

Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out。 But making
one person smile CAN change the world。 Maybe not the whole world, but
their world。 So narrow your focus。

这想法只会让你更筋疲力尽。但是,给你身边的人带去一点快乐确实能改变这个世界,即便无法让整个世界变得更美好,但你确实让那个人的世界变得更美好了。所以,把你的注意力都聚焦在你力所能及的地方。

28。 Stop worrying so much。

不要忧虑重重。

Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of
its joy。 One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask
yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three
years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about。

忧虑不会带走明天的负担,但它确能带走今天的快乐。而有些事情却是值得你去深思的,判断方法就是问自己:“这件事在1年后、3年后、5年后是否还有重要意义吗?”如果不是的话,你没有什么好忧虑的。

29.Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen。

不要把注意力都放在不想要发生的事情上。

Focus on what you do want to happen。 Positive thinking is at the
forefront of every great success story。 If you awake every morning with
the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today,
and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right。

你应该把注意力放在你想要发生的事情上。积极思考总是出现在每一则成功故事的序幕里。如过你每天醒来时想的是美好的事情就会在今天发生的话,你就会发现事实就是如此。

30。 Stop being ungrateful。

不要忘了感激你所拥有的一切。

No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for
your life。 Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs。
Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what
you have that everyone else is missing。

不论你人生际遇如何,每一天都要心怀感激醒来。在世界某处某些人还在为自己的命运无望地抗争着。所以,不要去想自己错过了什么,想想自己拥有哪些其他人没有的。

人的一生,总会有许多十字路口,向左,还是向右,迷茫的我们无从判断。这30件不值得我们去做的事,让自己在人生选择时知道该选择什么,放弃什么,不要再迷茫。

WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

翻译 by 正在实现半年计划的Lisa@改变自己